We’re the ammunition for your next brave decision.

You’ve got Facebook friends, fair-weather friends, work friends, and disappearing friends – but you probably don’t yet have a kind of professional friend whose job it is to help you make brave decisions that move your life forward.We're a new kind of “Friend” – paid to skillfully help you get clear and take action. That's our measure of success. Your Best Kinda Friend™ brings a tool belt of over 150 professional coaching skills and techniques to every conversation with you.It might be a relationship you cannot ignore, a career move you cannot decide on, a business dream you keep postponing, a boundary with family you cannot hold, a health goal you keep restarting, or a big decision that has been living rent-free in your head for far too long.ChatGPT won’t raise an eyebrow when you’re BS-ing yourself, but your Best Kinda Friend will gently point out inconsistencies between your voice and your words, and between your values and your actions.Put simply, our vision is to help you get clear and take motivated action in any area of life – one conversation at a time. There's no "taking turns" to talk about each of our lives here, because every single minute of every conversation is 100% about you – your life, your decisions and your next move.

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How does BKF compare to your friends?

Your Best Kinda Friend will give you what a normal friend can't.


Hey there, Cyndi here.

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Some quick facts about your new Friend, Cyndi

  • Earned credentials from The International Coach Federation (2015)

  • Studied life, career & executive coach training from Goal Imagery Institute (2015) and completed Certified Coach training from Fowler Wainwright International (2012)

  • Studied Life and Leadership Potentials Training at Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (2012)

  • Earned Bachelor's Degree in Philosophy with Highest Honours, including One Year at University of Oxford in England

  • Loves lifting heavy weights, dance music, and debating the existence and character of God (not in order of priority)

Hi, I'm Martha!

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Some quick facts about your new Friend, Martha

  • Studied at Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC) (2017-2018)

  • Earned certification as a Certified Professional Coach (CPC)(2019)

  • Earned certification as an Energy Leadership Index-Master Practitioner (ELI-MP) (2018)

  • Earned Emotional Intelligence Life Coach Certification (2020)

  • Loves the soda brand "Coke" and anything red, her parents and her family, not in order of priority



How does BKF work?

Three steps.

Have a "Get Clear" convo.

Pick a Best Kinda Friend - aka your "Friend" - Book a 30-min 1-on-1 confidential conversation. In this conversation, we get clear about what direction you'd like to head in some area of your life.

Have "Take action" convos.

After your Get Clear conversation, you may be invited to a 10-day Friendship package. This package begins with a 60-minute conversation on Day 1 to design what action you feel most motivated to take, followed by nine days of daily private voice messages and text message support to keep you moving, with an optional final conversation on Day 10 (it's up to you).

Keep moving convos.

If the 10-day Friendship works well for both you and your Friend, you may be invited into a longer Friendship package. From there, you’ll either keep working toward the long-term goal you named during your 10-day Friendship, or choose a new destination to move toward next – with weekly private coaching conversations and in-between voice note support along the way.

Higher chances of achieving your goals

A university study showed that 70% of participants who sent weekly updates to a friend reported successful goal achievement, compared to only 35% of participants who kept their goals to themselves.


List of 150+ Skills & Techniques

The following list contains skills and techniques that you might find mentioned in The Science of Personal Coaching, the book that serves as a theoretical basis for Best Kinda Friend. Book editions may contain slightly different language or descriptions.

About Best Kinda Friend Founder

Founder, author, coach, and communications professional, Cyndi McCoy, formulated a repeatable process called the "Seven Gears of a Coaching Conversation," which simply is a way for you to get clarity and take action in any area of your life through a live conversation. Cyndi's coaching theory is the result of her critical thinking skills honed through her honors philosophy degree, coupled with her background in professional coach training and credentialing through the prestigious International Coach Federation. Her book, The Science of Personal Coaching, contains 150+ skills and techniques to change someone's life through a series of 1:1 conversations. That's the foundation of Best Kinda Friend.Want to experience BKF?

Imagine having a Best Kinda Friend there for you either on demand or with a booking 24/7.


Best Kinda Friend™ Stats

In a simple list of numbers, here's what you can expect from kicking off a "friendship" with Best Kinda Friend. Of course, all of these are subject to our terms and conditions of service.


15%

Your Best Kinda Friend aims to talk for no more than 15% of your conversations. It's all about you thinking out loud, sharing what's on your mind.

100%

The topic of conversation is focused on you 100% of the time, and you only. No need to ask how your BKF is doing. We get straight to the point.

24/7

You have 24/7 access to your Best Kinda Friend: book a convo anytime day or night on our calendar or message us through WhatsApp or through another agreed voice messaging app.

0%

0% obligation for you to "be a friend" back to your Best Kinda Friend (BKF). No need to provide any kind of emotional support to your BKF. Instead, we are hired to provide all of that for you alone.

100%

Your Best Kinda Friend is 100% online (not in person). Cuddle up on your couch with your phone for a live conversation or leave audio messages anytime.

15-90

When you choose to schedule ahead of time, you can book anywhere from 15 minutes, 30 minutes, or up to 90 minute conversations with the BKF of your choice.



Testimonial

Cyndi was able to help me clarify some goals in an area that has been causing me some distress. It was a real life challenge, and her coaching was incisive and produced real life results in a short amount of time.

Jim Catalano, PhD

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Founder's Vision

I had this idea back in college.I had friends for fun. Friends who encouraged me. Friends I loved.But I kept thinking: for many decisions in life, you need a different kind of person in your corner, especially when friends or family either can’t show up, don’t know how, or they simply don’t have the tools or skills to help you think through it.Not quite a therapist either.Someone whose actual job is to believe in you, help you get brutally clear on what direction you genuinely want in life right now, strip away what isn’t really you, and keep you moving toward that destination.Someone whose job it is to be there on the phone for you for the everyday decisions and the life-altering ones. Someone who reminds you of your own values, your strengths, your real priorities – without mixing their own competing opinions or opposing values into it.
That's what I dreamed up.
Then, years later, after experiencing professional coaching and developing my own framework, The Science of Personal Coaching, that idea became Best Kinda Friend™ ("BKF").The vision is simple:To give people the kind of conversations most of us wish we had much sooner in life – nonjudgmental, fully invested, clarifying, and fiercely on your side.BKF believes in you, helps you get clear on what you genuinely want, and keeps you accountable until it becomes real.- Best Kinda Friend Founder, Cyndi McCoy


What results might I expect?

The below list comes from actual decisions and actions that have been made in conversations with a Best Kinda Friend. Your decisions and actions are 100% up to you, and we're here to help you get clarity and take action.


Better human relationship boundaries

  • Clearing the mental fog to discover who in the world helps or hinders your sense of life and purpose.

  • Making connections with new people who help you move forward.

  • Taking greater control of your boundaries.


Better time management

  • Prioritizing your schedule to make your highest values and goals come first.

  • Finding small spaces of time in a busy schedule to make progress.

  • Making important things happen sooner than you thought they could.

Mental clarity

  • Getting clear on who you want to be in life and career.

  • Identifying your #1 motivations in life, and making decisions that align better with them.

  • Getting to the bigger and more important questions about your decisions and actions.


Better investment of time and money

  • Finding your unique strategy to make your health and/or fitness goals happen with your busy schedule.

  • Earning a significant increase in income that you didn't think you could.

  • Having the career or business you desire.

  • New and better habits.

Hacks and shortcuts to goals

  • Discovering specific tools and techniques that help you keep a clear vision daily.

  • Fun conversational tricks to quickly solve complex problems.

  • Lots of "duh" moments where you realize you knew the right answer all along.


Better environments

  • Making small adjustments to your environments to make it a safer or more inspiring place for you to live or work.

  • Choosing environments that put you in the right mindset.


95% chance of completing your goal

A study by the American Society of Training and Development found that you have a 65% chance of completing a goal if you commit to someone that you’ll do it, but that chance goes up to 95% if you have a specific accountability appointment with the person you’ve committed to. That’s only one of many studies to show the power of accountability, and that’s one of many reasons why personal coaching is so powerful when it comes to decision-making and action-taking.


Frequently Asked Questions



"Coaching helps you stop the crazy mind chatter in your head that tells you all the time that you're not good enough."

Oprah Winfrey, Media Mogul and BillionaireTV host of the highest-rated talk show in American television history, coached by Martha Beck, a world-renowned life coach. Beck has been Oprah Winfrey's coach for more than 25 years and is said to have been the face behind most of Oprah's successes. (And no, Oprah isn't a client of ours – yet, haha!)


Pricing

GET CLEAR CONVO

  • 30-minute private coaching conversation

  • Discover your #1 motivator (to use for better decision-making)

  • Identify where your current decisions may not be aligned

  • Name what you may need to stop tolerating

  • Identify your next best step

  • Clarify what kind of support may help you move forward

  • See if your BKF "Friend" is the best fit for you

  • A friendship package invitation may be offered after this convo, pending fit and availability

  • No 24/7 access with this intro package

  • No ongoing support (one convo only)

$79 USD


10-DAY "FRIENDSHIP"

  • 60-minute Destination Convo on Day 1

  • Life Inventory: get clear on what you most want to change

  • Set a long-term destination (goal)

  • Choose your "next stop" on the way to your long-term destination

  • Turn your #1 motivator into aligned action

  • 10 days of 24/7 messaging access via text, email, and voice notes

  • Daily Friend check-ins: your Friend checks for your messages at least once every calendar day

  • 24/7 calendar access to book any open live convo slot

  • Get skilled encouragement to take action

  • Private booking link for live conversations during your package

$189 USD


30-DAY "FRIENDSHIP"

  • Discounted price (cheaper per day than the 10-day friendship)

  • 60-minute Destination Convo on Day 1

  • Life Inventory: get clear on what you most want to change

  • Set a long-term destination (goal)

  • Choose your "next stop" on the way to your long-term destination

  • Turn your #1 motivator into aligned action

  • 30 days of 24/7 messaging access via text, email, and voice notes

  • Daily Friend check-ins: your Friend checks for your messages at least once every calendar day

  • 24/7 calendar access to book any open live convo slot

  • Get skilled encouragement to take action

  • Private booking link for live conversations during your package

$489 USD


"Everyone needs a coach. We all need people that give us feedback. That’s how we improve."

Bill Gates, Co-Founder of Microsoft and BiilionaireAn American business magnate, software developer, investor, author, and philanthropist who has been coached by Bill Campbell. (And, no, Bill isn't a client of ours yet, either - hah!)


Friendship Invitations

We send a 10-day friendship invitation for those who completed a 30-minute "get clear" conversation and expressed a genuine passion to make change happen in their life. If you get this invite, you are Best Kinda Friend material, and we want to support you in reaching all of your goals or making any changes you wish to make in your life. This page contains everything you need to know to get moving, and to accept, you can make a booking further down on this webpage.



What is a Friendship invitation?

The invitation is for a 10-day or 30-day Friendship package – a pre-paid service that allows you 24/7 access to your Best Kinda Friend, and this kind of access is intended to help you get clarity and move toward your goals in a way you might not have had before. This details of this access are described below and are also subject to all of our terms and conditions.

Our Kick Off Convo

This Live 60-minute Kick Off Conversation (confidential, one-on-one) marks Day 1 of the Friendship. Your Kick Off convo is when we define what you most need and want to move forward with over the period of time that your package covers.We will work out how to fit in daily next-step conversations over a secure messaging app and/or additional live conversations so that you can keep progressing amidst your busy schedule. That might mean taking three minutes each day in a voice message to your Friend to prioritize tomorrow's tasks or it might mean scheduling an extra 30 minute conversation to go deeper... or it might mean something else. We find out what works for you.

24/7 Access

24/7 access. After your Kick Off conversation on Day 1, you can access your Friend through text, email, and - for many of us this is the best part - voice notes. Oh, the magic of thinking out loud!In your Kick Off call, your Friend will give you more information about your secure messaging app options. When you send a voice or text message, your Friend is committed to check their phones and reply anywhere from immediately or at bare minimum once per calendar day. Your Friend's responsibilities during this time are listed in our terms of service, of course. Whenever you need a live conversation, you can make a booking via the special link that your Friend shares with you anytime upon request.

Daily Responses

During your Friendship package, you and your BKF Friend will have your own private thread in a secure messaging app.Each day, you can use that thread to send voice notes or text messages related to your goal. You might use it to brain-dump, think out loud or talk through a challenge, report a win, make a decision, ask for support before taking action, or reflect on what happened after you did.At bare minimum, your Friend will check for your messages at least once every calendar day of your package and respond. For all the lovely details, see our terms.Remember that each day is like a gym membership – “use it or lose it.” You can use that day to send messages, receive support, or book an available live conversation. If you do not use a day, that day still counts as part of your package and is not added to the end, unless your Friend agrees to doing so for a good reason. This helps keep you accountable to action within the time frame of your package.

Booking More Time

Your prepayment covered up to two live conversations on Days 1 and a second live conversation anytime up to the last day of your package. Need a third or fourth live convo? After your Kick Off conversation on Day 1, you can ask your Friend for a link that will let you book an additional conversation anytime throughout the time frame of your package. A payment will typically be required for those bookings.When you choose to book an additional live conversation (as opposed to using only voice notes or text), it gives you a better chance to go deeper and make even more meaningful progress. A live conversation gives you a better chance each day to make decisions that better align with your unique vision, values, and motivators.

The below link brings you to a private booking page on Calendly. When you pay for this conversation, the price covers  all ten days  of this service.

Your BKF will send you the invitation.



95% chance of completing your goal

A study by the American Society of Training and Development found that you have a 65% chance of completing a goal if you commit to someone that you’ll do it, but that chance goes up to 95% if you have a specific accountability appointment with the person you’ve committed to. That’s only one of many studies to show the power of accountability, and that’s one of many reasons why personal coaching is so powerful when it comes to decision-making and action-taking.

Best Kinda Friend™ Terms of Service and Privacy Policy

Last updated: 24 June 2024 1:10 PM AEDT


NOTE: THIS PAGE IS UNDER CONSTRUCTION AS OF JUNE 2026. PLEASE IGNORE BLANK SPACES AND COME BACK SOON FOR COMPLETED TERMS.

INTRODUCTIONBest Kinda Friend™ is operated by Convosique Pty Ltd, based in Queensland, Australia.In this page:• The words or acronyms BKF, we, us and our mean Convosique Pty Ltd trading as Best Kinda Friend™.• You means the person using or buying a BKF service.• Friend means a BKF coach.• Friendship means a paid BKF coaching package.Your agreement is with Convosique Pty Ltd trading as Best Kinda Friend™, even where coaching is delivered by an individual BKF Friend.By booking, paying for, or using a BKF service, you agree to these Terms of Service and this Privacy Notice.You must be at least 18 years old to use BKF.SECTIONS
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PART A. WHAT BKF ISBKF is a paid, one-to-one online coaching service.We call our coaches “Friends” because the service is warm, personal, encouraging, and on your side. But this is still a professional coaching relationship, not a personal friendship.Your Friend may use conversation, questions, reflection, planning, accountability, encouragement and practical coaching tools to help you get clear and take action.BKF is not:• Therapy, counselling, psychology or psychiatric care.• Medical, health or nutrition advice.• Legal, financial, tax, investment or business advice.• A crisis or emergency service.• A promise that you will achieve a particular result.Your Friend may challenge your thinking, point out gaps between your values and actions, and help you think through decisions.You remain responsible for your own choices, actions, relationships, money, health, safety and life.If you are in immediate danger, feel unsafe, think you may harm yourself or someone else, or need urgent medical or mental-health support, do not rely on BKF. Contact local emergency services, a crisis service, a doctor or another qualified professional.

PART B. HOW YOUR BKF SERVICE WORKSThe booking page, checkout page or written Friendship invitation will explain the service you are buying, including the price, currency, package length and what is included.GET CLEAR CONVOA Get Clear Convo is a private, 30-minute online coaching conversation.It is designed to help you:• Identify what is most motivating you right now.• Get clearer on what is not working.• Identify your next best step.• See whether BKF feels like the right fit.A Get Clear Convo does not guarantee an invitation into a Friendship package.10-DAY FRIENDSHIPA 10-Day Friendship begins on Day 1 and runs for 10 consecutive calendar days.It includes:• A 60-minute Kick-Off Conversation on Day 1.• Private messaging support through an agreed method, such as text, email or voice note.• The ability to request or book available live conversations through your private booking link.• Up to 30 minutes of your Friend’s support time per calendar day, unless your invitation says otherwise.The 60-minute Kick-Off Conversation is separate from the daily 30-minute support allowance unless your invitation says otherwise.Your Friend’s support time includes time spent reading messages, listening to voice notes, replying, preparing for conversations and speaking with you live.Your Friend will check for messages at least once on each calendar day of your active Friendship package.Your booking confirmation or Friendship invitation will state the time zone that applies to your package.LONGER FRIENDSHIPSLonger Friendship packages, including Keep Momentum packages, are offered by invitation.Your invitation will explain:• How long the Friendship lasts.• What support is included.• How live conversations work.• The price.• Any extra conditions that apply.WHAT “24/7 ACCESS” MEANSYou can send a message or use your private booking link at any hour.That does not mean your Friend is awake, online or available to reply immediately at all hours.Your Friend’s responsibility is to check messages at least once each calendar day during your active Friendship package and respond to messages connected to your agreed goal.BKF is not an emergency, overnight or instant-response service.FRIENDSHIP DAYS ARE “USE IT OR LOSE IT”Friendship packages run for consecutive calendar days.You can use each day to send messages, receive support or book an available conversation.If you do not use a day, it still counts as part of your package.Unused days, unused daily support time and unused conversations do not automatically move to the end of the package.If your Friend needs to be unavailable during your Friendship, we will tell you and arrange a fair solution.BKF may agree to an extension where there is a genuine reason outside your control.

PART C. BOOKINGS, PAYMENTS, CANCELLATIONS AND REFUNDSBOOKINGS AND LIVE CONVERSATIONSPlease arrive on time for live conversations.If you arrive late, that time comes out of your booked session.If you have not joined within 15 minutes of the scheduled start time, BKF may treat the session as missed and it may count as used.Please give at least 24 hours’ notice where possible if you need to reschedule.A late cancellation or missed booking may count as used. We will consider genuine emergencies fairly.If your Friend needs to cancel or reschedule, we will offer another suitable time or another fair solution for the part of the service we could not provide.You are responsible for having a private place, a suitable device and a reliable internet or phone connection for live conversations.If a serious technical problem interrupts a conversation, we will try a reasonable backup option, such as phone, voice notes or rescheduling unused time.PAYMENTYou must pay before receiving a paid BKF service unless we agree otherwise in writing.The price and currency shown at checkout are the price due for your BKF service, unless checkout clearly says another charge will apply.Your bank, card provider or payment provider may charge currency-conversion or transaction fees. Those fees are outside BKF’s control.REFUNDS AND CANCELLATION RIGHTSBecause BKF reserves professional coaching time specifically for you, we generally do not provide refunds for:• Changing your mind after your service has started.• Unused days in a Friendship package.• Unused support time.• Late cancellations.• Missed bookings.However, this does not remove rights you may have under laws that apply where you live.Some countries give consumers a cooling-off or cancellation period for services bought online. Where this applies, we will provide the information and choices required by law before your service begins.Where you ask BKF to begin your service during a cancellation period, we may ask you to give separate, clear permission for that. You may need to pay for the part of the service already provided if you later cancel.If BKF does not provide the service with reasonable care and skill, or does not deliver a major part of what you paid for, you may be entitled to a remedy under Australian law or the mandatory consumer laws that apply where you live.To cancel under a legal cancellation right, contact BKF through the Contact page at bestkindafriend.com and include:• Your full name.• The email address or phone number used to book.• The service you purchased.• The date you booked.• A clear statement that you wish to cancel.For example:“I wish to cancel my BKF service purchased on [date]. My name is [name] and my booking contact is [email address or phone number].”

PART D. SAFETY, RESPECT AND CONFIDENTIALITYYOUR RESPONSIBILITIESTo create a useful, safe and respectful coaching relationship, you agree to:• Be honest to the best of your ability.• Tell your Friend if a question, topic or approach does not feel right for you.• Treat your Friend respectfully.• Not threaten, harass, abuse, stalk, impersonate or deliberately mislead anyone.• Not use BKF for illegal activity.• Not share another person’s private information without their permission.• Not record, publish or share a BKF conversation without everyone’s clear permission.BKF may pause or end a service where safety, respect, non-payment, serious misuse or another major issue makes it unreasonable to continue.Where possible, we will explain why.If BKF ends a service for a reason not caused by you, we will provide a fair solution for any unused paid part of the service.If you choose to end a Friendship early, unused days and unused support generally do not become refundable or transferable.CONFIDENTIALITYBKF treats your coaching conversations as private.We will not share your coaching information unless:• You ask us to.• It is reasonably necessary to provide your service.• The law requires it.• We reasonably believe this is necessary to reduce a serious risk of harm.• We need to respond to a valid legal request.We will not record a live coaching conversation without telling you and getting your clear permission.BKF MATERIALSThe BKF name, logo, website, videos, writing, graphics, exercises, coaching tools and other materials belong to BKF or are used with permission.You may use them for your own personal use.You may not copy, sell, publish, alter or use BKF materials commercially without our written permission.

PART E. PRIVACY NOTICE: HOW WE HANDLE YOUR INFORMATIONThis is BKF’s Privacy Notice.It explains what personal information we collect, why we collect it, how we use it, who may receive it, how long we keep it and what choices you have.WHO HANDLES YOUR INFORMATIONConvosique Pty Ltd trading as Best Kinda Friend™ is responsible for the personal information BKF collects and handles.For a privacy question, request to see or correct your information, or privacy complaint, contact BKF through the Contact page at bestkindafriend.com.Start your message with the words:PRIVACY QUESTIONPRIVACY REQUESTorPRIVACY COMPLAINTINFORMATION WE MAY COLLECTWe collect information needed to run BKF and provide your coaching service.This may include:• Your name, email address, phone number, country and time zone.• Booking and appointment details.• Payment and transaction information.• Messages, voice notes, emails and information you choose to share during coaching.• Your goals, decisions, reflections and progress.• Information you provide in forms or surveys.• Records of contact with BKF.• Basic technical information connected to your use of the BKF website, booking tools or other services.We usually collect this information directly from you.We may also receive limited information from the booking, payment, website, messaging or video-call providers you choose to use with BKF.SENSITIVE INFORMATIONCoaching conversations can include sensitive personal information, such as information about your health, relationships, beliefs, work, finances, sexuality, family or personal history.You decide what to share.Please do not send highly sensitive information unless you genuinely want BKF to use it in your coaching.Where the law requires us to have your explicit permission before using sensitive information, we will ask for it separately.You can withdraw that permission at any time. This will not affect information already used lawfully, and it may mean we cannot continue discussing that topic as part of your coaching.WHY WE USE YOUR INFORMATIONWe use personal information to:• Provide coaching and customer support.• Book and manage appointments.• Process payments.• Communicate with you about your service.• Help match you with an appropriate Friend.• Keep business, payment, tax and service records.• Improve BKF services and website experience.• Protect BKF, our Friends and clients from fraud, misuse or safety risks.• Comply with legal obligations.• Send updates or marketing where you have agreed to receive them or where the law allows it.Where privacy laws require us to explain our legal reason for using information, we generally rely on one or more of these reasons:• We need the information to provide the service you asked for.• We need it to meet a legal obligation.• We have a legitimate business reason, such as keeping BKF safe, preventing misuse, maintaining records or improving our service.• You have given us permission.WHO MAY RECEIVE YOUR INFORMATIONWe do not sell, rent or trade your personal information.We may share information only when reasonably necessary with:• The Friend providing your coaching.• Trusted providers that help us run BKF.• Professional advisers, such as accountants, insurers or lawyers, where necessary.• Government authorities, regulators, courts or law-enforcement agencies where required by law.• Emergency services or relevant people where we reasonably believe this is necessary to reduce a serious risk of harm.We will not use your private coaching messages, voice notes or personal story in marketing or testimonials without your clear permission.HOW LONG WE KEEP INFORMATIONWe keep information only for as long as we reasonably need it to provide services, maintain records, meet legal obligations, manage safety concerns or resolve disputes.Our usual approach is:• Coaching notes and BKF-held coaching records: up to 24 months after your active service ends.• General enquiries and booking records: up to 24 months after your last contact with us.• Payment, invoice, tax and accounting records: for the period required by law.• Information connected to a legal, safety, fraud or complaint matter: for as long as reasonably necessary.Deleting information from BKF’s own records does not automatically delete copies held in your own account, device or a third-party app.KEEPING INFORMATION SECUREWe take reasonable steps to protect personal information we hold from misuse, loss, unauthorised access, changes or disclosure.No online system is perfectly secure.You are also responsible for protecting your own devices, passwords, email account and messaging apps.Please do not send passwords, banking logins, identity documents or other highly sensitive information through a messaging app.MARKETING AND COOKIESWe may send news, offers, updates or helpful BKF content where you have agreed to receive it or where the law allows us to do so.You can unsubscribe from marketing at any time.You will still receive essential service messages, such as booking confirmations, payment receipts or updates about an active Friendship package.The BKF website or service providers may use cookies or similar technology to keep services working, remember preferences or understand how people use the website. 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PART F. THIRD-PARTY APPS, MESSAGING AND OVERSEAS DATABKF may use third-party services to operate parts of the business.These may include:• Carrd for the website.• Calendly for booking.• WhatsApp, where you and your Friend agree to use it for private messaging or voice notes.• Payment providers.• Email providers.• Video-call providers.• Cloud-storage, accounting, security or other business-management providers.YOUR CHOICE TO USE THIRD-PARTY APPSA third-party app is not a BKF app.When you use WhatsApp, Calendly, a payment provider, email provider, video-call provider or another external service, you are also using that company’s service.That company controls its own:• Terms of service.• Privacy policy.• Account rules.• Security settings.• Technical systems.• Outages and downtime.• Notification settings.• Data practices.• Service changes.You are responsible for:• Deciding whether you want to use that app.• Creating and maintaining your own account.• Reading that company’s terms and privacy policy.• Deciding what information you choose to share through that app.• Protecting your own device, password and account settings.• Checking whether the app feels suitable for the information you want to share.If you do not want to use a suggested messaging or booking app, tell BKF before buying a Friendship package. We will tell you whether a practical alternative is available.WHAT BKF DOES AND DOES NOT CONTROLBKF chooses service providers with care and takes reasonable steps to protect information within our control.However, BKF does not own or control third-party apps or services.To the extent allowed by law, BKF is not responsible for the independent acts, failures, systems, policies, outages, security incidents, service changes, lost messages, delayed notifications, advertising, tracking or account decisions of a third-party provider.This includes situations such as:• WhatsApp or another app being unavailable.• An external app delaying or failing to deliver a message.• A third-party company changing its privacy policy or account rules.• Your account being compromised because of a shared device, weak password, lost phone or compromised email account.• An external provider closing or restricting your account.Nothing in this section removes any legal responsibility BKF has for our own collection, use, storage or disclosure of personal information.OVERSEAS INFORMATION HANDLINGBKF is based in Australia.Your personal information may be stored, accessed or processed in Australia and in other countries where BKF or our third-party providers operate.Privacy laws in other countries may differ from the laws where you live.Before you choose to use a third-party provider, you can read that provider’s privacy policy to understand where and how it handles information.

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Skill or TechniqueContext or Category
Meeting ethical guidelines and professional standards.11 ICF Core Competencies from International Coach Federation
Establishing the coaching agreement.11 ICF Core Competencies from International Coach Federation
Establishing trust and intimacy with the client.11 ICF Core Competencies from International Coach Federation
Coaching presence.11 ICF Core Competencies from International Coach Federation
Active listening.11 ICF Core Competencies from International Coach Federation
Powerful questioning.11 ICF Core Competencies from International Coach Federation
Direct communication.11 ICF Core Competencies from International Coach Federation
Creating awareness.11 ICF Core Competencies from International Coach Federation
Designing actions.11 ICF Core Competencies from International Coach Federation
Planning and goal setting.11 ICF Core Competencies from International Coach Federation
Managing progress and accountability.11 ICF Core Competencies from International Coach Federation
Explore effect of client’s choice of words.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Explore client’s values.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Explore client’s environmental influences (e.g. organizational, family, politics, history).University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Explore client’s underlying mindset (e.g. assumptions, beliefs, stories).University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Explore the deeper meaning of a presenting issue.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Work with the client’s apparent defensiveness.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Point out recurrent theme in client behaviour.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Point out potential motives out of client’s awarenessUniversity study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Explore client’s in-session non-verbal behaviour.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Initiate exploration of client’s resources and how they might be leveraged (including strengths, accomplishments and/or external resources).University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Explore client’s emotions.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Encourage client to feel more deeply within session.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Encourage client to become more aware of immediate experience in the session.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Challenge client’s perspective of situation and/or self.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Ask client to quantify feeling/perception/issue using a scale.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Incorporate one or more periods of silent reflection.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Discuss the results of a psychometric instrument.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Discuss external feedback.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Use metaphors productively.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Expand on client’s statements.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Provide reassurance to client.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Use humor.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Show empathy.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Show rapport with client.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Show mutual understanding with client.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Discuss coaching relationship with client.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Ask for permission to give feedback.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Repeat client’s words back to client.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Check understanding as coach is correct.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Have a sense of optimism in the coaching session.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Show a shift in energy during the coaching session.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Show client and coach are engaged .University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Follow-up on key/significant statements made by client.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Ask questions that help the client to elaborate.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Discuss the coaching contract.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Discuss issues related to the termination of coaching.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Discuss boundaries and/or ethical issues related to the coaching engagement.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Discuss a potential referral to an outside specialist .University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Show the session is highly structured.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Show the session is brought to closure easily.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Discuss the process of the session.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Take an active role during the session.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Explain the reason behind using a specific intervention.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Show using an intervention mechanistically.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Enable client to take initiative in structuring the session.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Discuss client’s feedback on coaching.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Make sounds or give non-verbal encouragement to client to continue.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Suggest in-session exercise/activity.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Broaden the focus of discussions.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Ask questions that appear to open new possibilities for the client.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Encourage client to suggest next course of action.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Discuss new practices for the client.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Offer possible solutions.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Suggest homework for client.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Share knowledge about topic.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Follow up on previous homework.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Encourage client to make choices.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Ask client to describe key learning/takeaways from session.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Discuss the client’s progress.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Discuss the client’s overall goals.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Discuss how to measure the success of the coaching engagement.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Redirect client to client’s agenda.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Explore client’s level of engagement in coaching.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Inquire about client’s aim for the session.University study – coaching conversation practices (Oxford Brookes)
Knowledge – You already know the answers to the questions you have about your life.Five Assumptions - Assume these points about the client in every coaching conversation.
Resources – You have the resources you need to find the answers.Five Assumptions - Assume these points about the client in every coaching conversation.
Honesty – I trust that you are honest when you say that you feel ready to make a change in your life.Five Assumptions - Assume these points about the client in every coaching conversation.
False assumptions – You have possibly made unchallenged assumptions throughout life that, when challenged by me as your coach, may prove to be false.Five Assumptions - Assume these points about the client in every coaching conversation.
Emotional ends – For every decision you make you usually aren’t seeking a material end, but rather you are seeking an emotional end. Base coaching questions and observations on these principles in order to support the client’s growth.Five Assumptions - Assume these points about the client in every coaching conversation.
Sustainable personal change will happen in proportion to the strength of my desire for it to happen. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
Sometimes, I must first reach a point of feeling completely fed up with something before I can find enough desire to fuel the change that needs to happen. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
Material resources are not an obstacle for me, as people with the least amount of resources have achieved world-changing progress because their desire found a way. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
It’s not a question of if I can do something, but rather it’s a question of how much it will cost to get it – emotionally, physically, materially, and financially. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
It is equally important to ask myself how much it will cost me not to do it. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
Healthy personal change happens when I am both honest and compassionate with myself at the same time and in equal amounts. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
When I make decisions according to someone else’s convictions or values that conflict with my own, I lose some degree of integrity and power. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
I will not control or force attitudes on other people, but I can attempt to persuade, influence, set an example for, and motivate others. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
I am 100% responsible for the attitude I choose in every situation.(Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
Regularly rewarding myself and acknowledging the smallest evidence of my progress is important because it has the power to create greater mental momentum. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
Accountability changes behavior and choices.(Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
When I say a word, everyone else has slightly different pictures in their minds than all of the pictures in my head, so it’s better to communicate with imagery, metaphors, and visuals whenever possible, so that we can all see the same thing more accurately.(Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
When I accept a victim mentality in myself, I oppose my own success and progress.(Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
It is healthy to give myself the time and space for healing after experiencing disappointment, loss, sadness, hurt, anger, or other heavy emotions that slow down progress toward my goals. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
When life gives me manure, it’s my job to convert it to fertilizer and see what new life I can grow with it. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
The language I choose to frame my situation matters. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
Knowing what I don’t want is important, but I might become “stuck” if I don’t use this knowledge to clarify what it is that I do want. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
I am often wiser than I believe myself to be. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
Without my own vision for my life, I live according to someone else’s vision by default. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
I don’t make “mistakes”, but I do have learning experiences that help me understand myself better. Because there are thousands of psychological, neurological, biological, sociological, cultural, and other factors involved in my decisions that are beyond my control or knowledge, everything that someone may call a mistake is actually meant to provide more information or knowledge that I either wasn’t fully convinced of beforehand or that I simply did not know. (Align conversation with this principle.)20 Principles of Personal Change
Conduct the 10 High-Grade Motivators analysis and identify effects on client’s decision-making.Motivators
Conduct a Life Inventory covering 18 areas of the client’s life and identify effects on client’s decision-making.Life Inventory
1st Gear – Find Agreement – establish logistics for relationship by working with client’s Head Space.Seven Gears of Every Coaching Conversation
2nd Gear – Find Heart Space – identify client’s Heart Space and Braindump topics.Seven Gears of Every Coaching Conversation
3rd Gear – Find a Fire – identify a client’s Fire for a specific change that inspires their passion and energy.Seven Gears of Every Coaching Conversation
4th Gear – Write Words – note and reflect the exact words that clarify a client’s goals.Seven Gears of Every Coaching Conversation
5th Gear – Design Action – identify a motivated and committed Action towards the client’s Destination.Seven Gears of Every Coaching Conversation
Neutral Gear – Check In – confirm how the client is feeling about the coaching conversation.Seven Gears of Every Coaching Conversation
Reverse Gear – Overcome – identify obstacles to client’s progress or motivation.Seven Gears of Every Coaching Conversation
Smoothly change between gears during the conversation in response to the client’s needs.Seven Gears of Every Coaching Conversation
Use the relevant 1st Gear Checklist to conduct a Destination Conversation with a new or existing client, or a Next Stop Conversation with an existing client.1st Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Apply client-centricity in all conversations.1st Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Explain and apply the coaching definition of Clarity and Action.1st Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use silent pauses for reflection.1st Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Affirm the Safe Space of the coaching conversation.1st Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Ask Permission to empower the client.1st Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Assess the Coaching Chemistry of the coaching relationship.1st Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Elicit circumstances that the client is currently Tolerating.1st Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use the relevant 2nd Gear Checklist to conduct a Destination Conversation with a new or existing client, or a Next Stop Conversation.2nd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use Heart Space questions as a technique to identify the topics that matter most to a client.2nd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use Braindump as a technique to enable client to explore multiple topics.2nd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)                 
Ask questions designed to Calibrate client’s expressions of joy, happiness, and frustration.2nd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use the tools in 1st to 4th Gears to assist clients to achieve Clarity regarding what they want.2nd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Affirm a client’s feelings using the technique of Acknowledging.2nd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Affirm a client’s wins and encourage Celebrating to maximise the positive impact.2nd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use homework and learning from these activities as a tool to support Next Stop Conversations.2nd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Ask questions that assist clients to identify and overcome their Disabling Beliefs, including Blanket Statements, Monsters, and Translations.2nd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use the relevant 3rd Gear Checklist to conduct a Destination Conversation with a new or existing client, or a Next Stop Conversation.3rd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use Destination Conversations to encourage a client to visualise and confirm their Destination goal, which is possible to achieve in 8 days to 12 months.3rd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Define for clients the distinction between a Destination goal, an Ultimate Destination goal , and Meta-Goals . - Change to define for clients destination vs next stop?3rd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use Next Stop Conversations to help client identify a short-term goal, which is possible to achieve in a week or less, or by the next coaching conversation, including time frames and measurable results. - using the b8 process!3rd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use Fast Forwarding as a visualization technique to enable a client to evoke the feelings and ideas needed to achieve goals.3rd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use Role Play scenarios to enable clients to access creative and playful parts of their minds that can help provide innovative solutions to obstacles, conflict or confusion.3rd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Encourage client to identify what it will cost them if they don’t make a particular change they want.3rd Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use the relevant 4th Gear Checklist to conduct a Destination Conversation with a new or existing client, or a Next Stop Conversation.4th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use Note Taking to write client’s keywords as they describe their goals, to support Clarity and accountable progress toward goals.4th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use Echoing to repeat client’s words back in a way that encourages them to hear and reflect on them.4th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use Decision Alignment questions to encourage a client to relate their decision-making to their Motivators.4th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use Authoring questions and observations to frame situations so that the client recognises they are the author of their choices.4th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use the relevant 5th Gear Checklist to conduct a Destination Conversation with a new or existing client, or a Next Stop Conversation.5th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use the b8 Checklist with clients to plan and design a next step of Action between coaching conversations that clients feel committed to and have a high chance of completing.5th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Baiting process step: Baby It – Encourage client to define a goal that is small enough to achieve in a week or less, or by the next coaching conversation.5th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Baiting process step: Bang! – Encourage client to create goals that engage their interest and excitement.5th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Baiting process step: – Encourage client to ensure they have created Measurable Goals and to identify the evidence they will need to prove they have achieved their goal.5th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Baiting process step: But How Long? – Encourage client to identify the longest, shortest and average time it could take to achieve their goal.5th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Baiting process step: Book It! – Encourage client to schedule their Action on a calendar, and identify a fallback date and reminders.5th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Baiting process step: Believe It! – Ask client Scaling Questions to score their commitment and motivation to achieving the goal on a scale from 1 to 10 and discuss results.5th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Baiting process step: Blocks? – Encourage client to create a list of potential obstacles to completing the Action, including Disabling Beliefs.5th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Baiting process step: Backup? – Provide support and accountability to client to ensure they can complete the Action, including scheduling next conversation, and prompting them to use Real Reminders, and ask for assistance from others.5th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Encourage clients to use a Vision Board to maintain focus and desire for their goals by focusing on the rewards that achievement will bring.5th Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use the Neutral Gear Checklist and the concept of the Tachometer to check in with clients at least once in a conversation to identify whether a shift to the structure of a higher or lower gear would better suit their needs and state of motivation and move them in an emotionally positive direction.Neutral Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use the Reset Button technique to remind clients of what will assist them to become mentally refreshed.Neutral Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Encourage clients to use Gratitude techniques to move them in an emotionally positive direction, including lists, journals, and affirmations.Neutral Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use the Reverse Gear Checklist to encourage clients to overcome obstacles to reaching their Destination and other goals.Reverse Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use Interrupting to assist clients to stay accountable to their expectations and goals.Reverse Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use Contrasting to assist the client to identify and switch focus from what they don’t want to what they do.Reverse Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Identify and discuss Contradictions between tone and words, Destination goal and new goals, and other statements of the client.Reverse Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use Rewinding as a technique to playfully retell a past story to change it in a way that helps prepare for that situation in the future and overcome negative emotions.Reverse Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
Use Anchoring poses to attach a physical gesture with a feeling, to assist decision-making and emotional change.Reverse Gear (specific skills, techniques and aptitudes)
"Commandment" #1 – Feel good yourself and bring the client with you to a genuine “feel-good” place OR Don’t feed negative energy or bring it into the conversation. This involves using Forward Moving Questions to focus all questions on creating Clarity or creating Action to ensure client pursues their true desires and feels great. (Implement this in the conversation.)10 Coaching "Commandments"
"Commandment" #2 – Ask only one simple question at a time OR Don’t ask complex questions. This involves avoiding Stacking Questions that can cause confusion. (Implement this in the conversation.)10 Coaching "Commandments"
"Commandment" #3 – Use the client’s language in your question OR Don’t use your own words to paraphrase unless you confirm those words to be true.This involves using Stripped-Down Questions to keep questions simple and open and devoid of words and assumptions of the coach. (Implement this in the conversation.)10 Coaching "Commandments"
"Commandment" #4 – Ask Open-Ended Questions OR Don’t ask Closed-Ended Questions. (Implement this in the conversation.)10 Coaching "Commandments"
"Commandment" #5 – Ask genuine questions to which you don’t know the answers OR Don’t ask leading questions. (Implement this in the conversation.)10 Coaching "Commandments"
"Commandment" #6 – Vary your questions to minimize the use of “you” OR Don’t use “you” if you can find another way of asking a question. (Implement this in the conversation.)10 Coaching "Commandments"
"Commandment" #7 – Ask for clarity on ambiguous or unclear language before moving on in the conversation OR Don’t respond to the client unless you first understand what they said. (Implement this in the conversation.)10 Coaching "Commandments"
"Commandment" #8 – If you interrupt to ask a question, first apologize for the interruption and then ask permission to continue OR Don’t simply start talking immediately after an interruption without first gaining permission for the interruption. (Implement this in the conversation.)10 Coaching "Commandments"
"Commandment" #9 – Ask questions without your opinion involved OR Don’t put advice into your question unless you have permission to engage in a brainstorming session. (Implement this in the conversation.)10 Coaching "Commandments"
"Commandment" #10 – Look for how the client can take full responsibility and exercise freedom of choice in any situation OR Don’t support the blaming of anyone. (Implement this in the conversation.)10 Coaching "Commandments"
60 or 90 Minutes – Plan for a minimum 90 minutes for Destination Conversations and 60 minutes for Next Stop Conversations.Conversation Numbers
15-Minute Daily Calls – Use after a 60-minute Weekly Planning Call to establish Clarity, to enable targeted and brief focus on Designing Actions and Maintaining Progress and Accountability.Conversation Numbers
100% Focus – Listen closely to the client and focus all of the conversation on the client’s life and progress.Conversation Numbers
12 Months – Plan to assist a client to reach a typical Destination goal in 12 months.Conversation Numbers
80/20 Rule – Ensure 80% of the coaching conversation is spent in Active Listening to the client, and no more than 20% the coach talking.Conversation Numbers
75% Open-Ended Questions – Ensure 75% of the time the coach is talking is spent asking Open-Ended Questions, including Powerful Questions to move the client forward and Meaning Questions for the client to elaborate.Conversation Numbers
20% Acknowledgements, Validations, Observations, and Celebrations – Allow 25% of the time the coach is talking is spent making statements to move the client forward in these four ways.Conversation Numbers
5% Closed-Ended Questions – Use these to deal with the logistical questions of the coaching relationship, and avoid them in the rest of the coaching conversation or convert them to Open-Ended Questions.Conversation Numbers
Use the Triple A Rating Survey to evaluate a coach’s reputation based on their Aptitude, Accessibility and Ability.Skils evaluation